Amazing how that works.
For so long I have been trying to figure out how in the world does the 5% make so much and live cmftbly and the 95% don't?
But this year has changed my life.. Literally. In a way I can't look back and only move forward. I see how it is now, successful people have a different mindset.
They don't care about what others say.
In our society we grow up caring so much about what other people say. Our parents instil this upon us, from childhood to... death! haha. I remember my parents always say, "no matter what you do, as long as you don't embarass the family." or "what would they say.." or "how do you think she's feel about it?" NO WONDER why everybody is not courageous enough to go out there and live their dreams.
I can attest to this, only because I knew I was something bigger.. but for so long I listened to what everyone would say. Whenever I do something I always care about what they think of me, or how they will react to what I do. HOw they will judge and redicule, laugh, or criticize.
Somehow this little voice holds me back in what I need to accomplish. And I can see how this happens to other people too.
It's not that we are all not capable of what we can do, it's just that we "tell" ourselves we can't do them. Then in turn, it affects how we communicate with people, so they as well tell us, we shouldn't do it.
It all begins in us. I know for a fact I always let my little voice tell me what to do, and talk myself out of accomplishing my goals. I used to not recognize this "little voice" or this "loser voice" inside of me, but now that I do, it pisses me off.
When you think about it, it's not the circumstances around us that decide what we can and cannot do. It's us. The inner us. And it's a constant battle between the winner side and the loser side within me. The winner side is definitely harder to come out, no wonder there's only 5% of wealthy people. The loser side is easier to come out, more comfortable, only takes little to no courage, and no ambition at all.. which explains the remaining 95% of the population.
But in a way I am thankful that I am even aware of this. Coz then now I can work my way to become a five percenter.
Are we all aware of our little voices? I think we should be. I never knew it existed until I was faced with a challenge that tested my courage and faith. If we don't know that we have a loser and a winner side, we prolly are not doing anything (at all) to have them come out. If I look back last year, I didnt know. ONly because I was living comftbly, mediocre, and was too afraid to take risks and face challenges.
It all starts with us. Winning the fight against our own self. if we win, anything can be accomplished.
This is the struggle I need to overcome.
Overcoming... ME.
By The Grand Piano. Millennium Biltmore Hotel, Los Angeles 9/25/10.
props to truffles. thanks for the footage. haha
Almost 25. I guess I'm Close..
What to Know When You're 25-ish
Here are the things really worth caring about in your 20s.
When you’re 25-ish, you’re old enough to know what kind of music you love, regardless of what your last boyfriend or roommate always used to play. You know how to walk in heels, how to tie a necktie, how to give a good toast at a wedding and how to make something for dinner. You don’t have to think much about skin care, home ownership or your retirement plan. Your life can look a lot of different ways when you’re 25: single, dating, engaged, married. You are working in dream jobs, pay-the-bills jobs and downright horrible jobs. You are young enough to believe that anything is possible, and you are old enough to make that belief a reality.
Job
Now is the time to figure out what kind of work you love to do. What are you good at? What makes you feel alive? What do you dream about? You can go back to school now, switch directions entirely. You can work for almost nothing, or live in another country, or volunteer long hours for something that moves you. There will be a time when finances and schedules make this a little trickier, so do it now. Try it, apply for it, get up and do it.
When I was 25, I was in my third job in as many years—all in the same area at a church, but the responsibilities were different each time. I was frustrated at the end of the third year because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do next. I didn’t feel like I’d found my place yet. I met with my boss, who was in his 50s. I told him how anxious I was about finding the one perfect job for me, and quick. He asked me how old I was, and when I told him I was 25, he told me that I couldn’t complain to him about finding the right job until I was 32. In his opinion, it takes about 10 years after college to find the right fit, and anyone who finds it earlier than that is just plain lucky. So use every bit of your 10 years: try things, take classes, start over.
Relationships
Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from the ones that don’t give you everything you need. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.
Counseling
Twenty-five is also a great time to start counseling, if you haven’t already, and it might be a good round two of counseling if it’s been a while. You might have just enough space from your parents to start digging around your childhood a little bit. Unravel the knots that keep you from living a healthy whole life, and do it now, before any more time passes.
Church
Twenty-five is the perfect time to get involved in a church you love, no matter how different it is from the one you were a part of growing up. Be patient and prayerful, and decide that you’re going to be a person who grows, who seeks your own faith, who lives with intention. Set your alarm on Sunday mornings, no matter how late you were out on Saturday night. It will be dreadful at first, and then after a few weeks, you’ll find that you like it, that the pattern of it fills up something inside you.
Don ' t get stuck
This is the thing: when you start to hit 28 or 30, everything starts to divide, and you can see very clearly two kinds of people: on one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find God and themselves and their deep dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. And then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. They mean to find a church, they mean to develop honest, intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in kind of an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than they were when they graduated college.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. Walk away, try something new. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? What have I learned about God this year? What parts of my childhood faith am I leaving behind, and what parts am I choosing to keep with me for this leg of the journey? Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Become, believe, try. Walk closely with people you love, and with other people who believe that God is very good and life is a grand adventure. Don’t spend time with people who make you feel like less than you are. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
Taken from Bittersweet by Shauna Niequist Copyright © 2010. Used by permission of Zondervan. www.zondervan.com
Here are the things really worth caring about in your 20s.
When you’re 25-ish, you’re old enough to know what kind of music you love, regardless of what your last boyfriend or roommate always used to play. You know how to walk in heels, how to tie a necktie, how to give a good toast at a wedding and how to make something for dinner. You don’t have to think much about skin care, home ownership or your retirement plan. Your life can look a lot of different ways when you’re 25: single, dating, engaged, married. You are working in dream jobs, pay-the-bills jobs and downright horrible jobs. You are young enough to believe that anything is possible, and you are old enough to make that belief a reality.
Job
Now is the time to figure out what kind of work you love to do. What are you good at? What makes you feel alive? What do you dream about? You can go back to school now, switch directions entirely. You can work for almost nothing, or live in another country, or volunteer long hours for something that moves you. There will be a time when finances and schedules make this a little trickier, so do it now. Try it, apply for it, get up and do it.
When I was 25, I was in my third job in as many years—all in the same area at a church, but the responsibilities were different each time. I was frustrated at the end of the third year because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do next. I didn’t feel like I’d found my place yet. I met with my boss, who was in his 50s. I told him how anxious I was about finding the one perfect job for me, and quick. He asked me how old I was, and when I told him I was 25, he told me that I couldn’t complain to him about finding the right job until I was 32. In his opinion, it takes about 10 years after college to find the right fit, and anyone who finds it earlier than that is just plain lucky. So use every bit of your 10 years: try things, take classes, start over.
Relationships
Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from the ones that don’t give you everything you need. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.
Counseling
Twenty-five is also a great time to start counseling, if you haven’t already, and it might be a good round two of counseling if it’s been a while. You might have just enough space from your parents to start digging around your childhood a little bit. Unravel the knots that keep you from living a healthy whole life, and do it now, before any more time passes.
Church
Twenty-five is the perfect time to get involved in a church you love, no matter how different it is from the one you were a part of growing up. Be patient and prayerful, and decide that you’re going to be a person who grows, who seeks your own faith, who lives with intention. Set your alarm on Sunday mornings, no matter how late you were out on Saturday night. It will be dreadful at first, and then after a few weeks, you’ll find that you like it, that the pattern of it fills up something inside you.
Don ' t get stuck
This is the thing: when you start to hit 28 or 30, everything starts to divide, and you can see very clearly two kinds of people: on one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find God and themselves and their deep dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. And then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. They mean to find a church, they mean to develop honest, intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in kind of an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than they were when they graduated college.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. Walk away, try something new. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? What have I learned about God this year? What parts of my childhood faith am I leaving behind, and what parts am I choosing to keep with me for this leg of the journey? Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Become, believe, try. Walk closely with people you love, and with other people who believe that God is very good and life is a grand adventure. Don’t spend time with people who make you feel like less than you are. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
Taken from Bittersweet by Shauna Niequist Copyright © 2010. Used by permission of Zondervan. www.zondervan.com
Confessions of a Confused Heart
ahh. I'm torn.
Sometimes I wonder if what I did was right, the decisions I've made.. the mistakes I've done..
Career..
It has been quite a ride. Sometimes I wished I could've hustled more.. Probably my results would be different.. This journey has taught me so much about myself. What I'm capable of, and what I can accomplish. I realized I could do great things but I care so much about what other people think (or what Blair Singer calls 'the Little Voice') and that holds me back. Somehow one day I just want to shut this little voice up so I can go do my thing coz I know I can. I mean, I went all the way from No christmas dinners to living in Los Angeles on my own. I have come a loooongggg way. And if I just stayed in my comfort zone (which was home) I prolly would not have ended up here.
I had a friend tell me I wasn't a go-getter. Which I agree, and disagree at the same time. I know I am, i mean I made it through college being the youngest graduate in my course, (which so happen to be the hardest course in the entire university), and taking a risk and moving out to LA. If I wasn't a go getter I would have been stuck in Alaska... wait no, I would have been stuck in the Philippines. But I was a risk taker.. I have always wanted to move to LA, didn't know how, but when the opportunity came I grabbed it even if I didn't know what I was doing. I'm on my quest to becoming a top 5% income earner and If I didn't have an inkling of being a go-getter, I would've quit, and just kept working.
Although a side of me agrees to that as well. only because I realized how it is to set and reach goals. It isn't easy..it comes with working hard. I am shocked by all of this coz for a while I was just trying to 'survive' and it was great dont get me wtrong, but to actually set such a high goal and reach it? it's tough. So I cant agree that I am not a go-getter, but instead I am going through a journey and realizing what it takes to be great and succeed in life. I will get there. maybe I'm not hustling enough just yet. but I will get there.
Relationships..
ugh such a touchy subject. sometimes I wish men weren't around. If they only know how much of a distraction they are. lol. If a distraction is a penny, I would have a jar full of it. I can't blame others; I can only blame me. And somehow I blame myself for having men distract me so much (well, just one or two in particular lol) and let it get in the way of my goals. I can't say anything though, can't take it back now, it's all over. What they say is true.. when emotions are at its peak, intelligence is at its lowest. So true. I let my emotions decide my future (wtf, bad idea).. I am greatful that I learned this now, coz i really cannot let "loving someone" distract me from what I need to do. As much as I love to do it and it is in my nature, I simply can't. My future is on the line.
friends...
I have lost a lot of friends through this journey. Many of them I don't talk to anymore. Sad, but true. Like Jim Rohn says it is what it is and I shouldn't figure out why things happen.. they just do, and I just have to deal with it. It sucks to know that your friends don't necessarily have your back in some stuff that you do, a journey you go through, but I'm sure down the road they will all come back, and it will be just like the old times... Some have stuck around, but I'm not even sure how they feel about me. If I have offended them (see my blog "I apologize") I am sorry, but I may have to go through this on my own.. I cannot base my decisions on what other people think anymore.. I simply can't.. Like I said, my future is on the line..
Goals..
damnn goals are tough to reach, but the person you become in this journey is simply amazing. I have learned so much about me, what I'm capable of, how I am in the presence of others, how I handle other people's successes. My PPL family has taught me so much about life, money, relationships, etc. Things i have never learned since growing up, and definitely not in school. I am excited to pass these on to my children.. I think I will be a good parent. In fact, I know I will be. In time I will reach all the goals I have set for me, and although it is a painful journey, it will all be worth it at the end.
Sometimes I wonder if what I did was right, the decisions I've made.. the mistakes I've done..
Career..
It has been quite a ride. Sometimes I wished I could've hustled more.. Probably my results would be different.. This journey has taught me so much about myself. What I'm capable of, and what I can accomplish. I realized I could do great things but I care so much about what other people think (or what Blair Singer calls 'the Little Voice') and that holds me back. Somehow one day I just want to shut this little voice up so I can go do my thing coz I know I can. I mean, I went all the way from No christmas dinners to living in Los Angeles on my own. I have come a loooongggg way. And if I just stayed in my comfort zone (which was home) I prolly would not have ended up here.
I had a friend tell me I wasn't a go-getter. Which I agree, and disagree at the same time. I know I am, i mean I made it through college being the youngest graduate in my course, (which so happen to be the hardest course in the entire university), and taking a risk and moving out to LA. If I wasn't a go getter I would have been stuck in Alaska... wait no, I would have been stuck in the Philippines. But I was a risk taker.. I have always wanted to move to LA, didn't know how, but when the opportunity came I grabbed it even if I didn't know what I was doing. I'm on my quest to becoming a top 5% income earner and If I didn't have an inkling of being a go-getter, I would've quit, and just kept working.
Although a side of me agrees to that as well. only because I realized how it is to set and reach goals. It isn't easy..it comes with working hard. I am shocked by all of this coz for a while I was just trying to 'survive' and it was great dont get me wtrong, but to actually set such a high goal and reach it? it's tough. So I cant agree that I am not a go-getter, but instead I am going through a journey and realizing what it takes to be great and succeed in life. I will get there. maybe I'm not hustling enough just yet. but I will get there.
Relationships..
ugh such a touchy subject. sometimes I wish men weren't around. If they only know how much of a distraction they are. lol. If a distraction is a penny, I would have a jar full of it. I can't blame others; I can only blame me. And somehow I blame myself for having men distract me so much (well, just one or two in particular lol) and let it get in the way of my goals. I can't say anything though, can't take it back now, it's all over. What they say is true.. when emotions are at its peak, intelligence is at its lowest. So true. I let my emotions decide my future (wtf, bad idea).. I am greatful that I learned this now, coz i really cannot let "loving someone" distract me from what I need to do. As much as I love to do it and it is in my nature, I simply can't. My future is on the line.
friends...
I have lost a lot of friends through this journey. Many of them I don't talk to anymore. Sad, but true. Like Jim Rohn says it is what it is and I shouldn't figure out why things happen.. they just do, and I just have to deal with it. It sucks to know that your friends don't necessarily have your back in some stuff that you do, a journey you go through, but I'm sure down the road they will all come back, and it will be just like the old times... Some have stuck around, but I'm not even sure how they feel about me. If I have offended them (see my blog "I apologize") I am sorry, but I may have to go through this on my own.. I cannot base my decisions on what other people think anymore.. I simply can't.. Like I said, my future is on the line..
Goals..
damnn goals are tough to reach, but the person you become in this journey is simply amazing. I have learned so much about me, what I'm capable of, how I am in the presence of others, how I handle other people's successes. My PPL family has taught me so much about life, money, relationships, etc. Things i have never learned since growing up, and definitely not in school. I am excited to pass these on to my children.. I think I will be a good parent. In fact, I know I will be. In time I will reach all the goals I have set for me, and although it is a painful journey, it will all be worth it at the end.
R Kelly: EPIC. Inspiration at its best.
Cannot wait to have this album.
very inspirational. we need more songs like these....
what can i say, i love this R Kelly.
(fave: The World's Greatest and Fireworks)
1.Heal It (Prelude)
2.Sign Of A Victory (The Official 2010 FIFA World Cup Anthem)
3.I Believe
4.The World's Greatest
5.Victory
6.Peace
7.If I Could Turn Back The Hands Of Time
8.Fireworks
9.Spirit
10.I'm Your Angel (Duet With Celine Dion)
11.Can You Feel It
12.I Believe I Can Fly
Album drops on Sept 21st.
New Music. Mary J R Kelly Willow Smith Foreign Exchange
from Mary J doing some reggae beat, to my new ED song from R Kelly, to Will Smith's daughter Willow Smith's new leak..
Some great stuff out there!
Mary J is def killing this, wouldnt expect her to go reggae-ish but love it!
I have found my new ED Song... This will play when I walk on stage soon! R kelly of course always have good ones out tho. At least this one's nthing sexual..
what the heck... first will, then jayden+beiber, then now willow? the smith family is taking over. Willow's definitely killin this. somehow i think she;s better than rihanna hahaha. Jada pinkett better produce some leaks too!
i think foreign exchange will be my new favorite. Not so much of the club hip hop vibe, but still could be a classic.
Some great stuff out there!
Mary J is def killing this, wouldnt expect her to go reggae-ish but love it!
I have found my new ED Song... This will play when I walk on stage soon! R kelly of course always have good ones out tho. At least this one's nthing sexual..
what the heck... first will, then jayden+beiber, then now willow? the smith family is taking over. Willow's definitely killin this. somehow i think she;s better than rihanna hahaha. Jada pinkett better produce some leaks too!
i think foreign exchange will be my new favorite. Not so much of the club hip hop vibe, but still could be a classic.
Marines & Sailors: It's September! Almost there!
wow has it really been almost four months. almost three quarters through deployment.
This blog shouts out to the marines and sailors of the USS Peleliu whom a dear friend of mine is currently deployed with. Everything in the news praise these group of service men in their relief efforts in Pakistan. Truly truly proud of you all.
Home is on the horizon. A few more months and everyone will be happy to see you all.
Sgt Maurice D Brantley of the 15MEU on board... few more months and we get to drink again. haha.
Shout out to those who are in Operation Iraqi Freedom... Although some of you will stay in Afghanistan, we welcome the rest of you home.
Prayers to all the men and women who serve in the military.
This blog shouts out to the marines and sailors of the USS Peleliu whom a dear friend of mine is currently deployed with. Everything in the news praise these group of service men in their relief efforts in Pakistan. Truly truly proud of you all.
Home is on the horizon. A few more months and everyone will be happy to see you all.
Sgt Maurice D Brantley of the 15MEU on board... few more months and we get to drink again. haha.
Shout out to those who are in Operation Iraqi Freedom... Although some of you will stay in Afghanistan, we welcome the rest of you home.
Prayers to all the men and women who serve in the military.
The thoughts of you wake me up at...7 am?
Awaking from a deep slumber I get up in the morning and the first thing I do is check my phone. As if I need to make a phone call, I grab it ever so quickly and check my messages. Somehow in my sleep I have wished that when I wake up your name will appear on my iPhone screen.
I log in to my social networking site as if it's the most important thing. Even before checking my updates I go to check yours, and see what's new since the last time I checked it...which would be a only a few hours ago.
I seem to be obssessing over an inanimate object; a creature whom I am not a part of anymore,whom I have broken ties with. The bond has ben slashed so horribly even the greatest God can't seem to fix it. I go by my day constantly replaying moments, and creating more "what if's" to fill in the gaps. They say never think about something too much coz then that person lives In your mind for free. How do you stop a heart, though? How do you stop a mind? How do you stop an emotion?
I forget about this imaginary creature throughout the day asifit never existed...only to find out it never lasts. At the end of the day I still find myself doing the same thing I do in the morning. Hoping .. Hoping... That somehow his magical name would appear on my screen. How wrong is it to miss someone.. Who you know.. May not miss you at all?
I find myself drowning in these thoughts... Thoughts of him and I, along with God's blessings and guidance. But I wouldn't know how it would hVe been.. I will always be constantly imagining. Somehow this creature, whom I knew even right In the beginning, was the One I have always wanted to be with, someone whom I imagined them to be, only to be taken away. I felt like God has loaned him to me for such a short time, but what's His Is His... I'm still thankful that He loaned this creature to me, to learn from, have fun with, make love with, shared ideas with, to have fun with, and to see life, future, success, with.
I will still be forever thankful.
I log in to my social networking site as if it's the most important thing. Even before checking my updates I go to check yours, and see what's new since the last time I checked it...which would be a only a few hours ago.
I seem to be obssessing over an inanimate object; a creature whom I am not a part of anymore,whom I have broken ties with. The bond has ben slashed so horribly even the greatest God can't seem to fix it. I go by my day constantly replaying moments, and creating more "what if's" to fill in the gaps. They say never think about something too much coz then that person lives In your mind for free. How do you stop a heart, though? How do you stop a mind? How do you stop an emotion?
I forget about this imaginary creature throughout the day asifit never existed...only to find out it never lasts. At the end of the day I still find myself doing the same thing I do in the morning. Hoping .. Hoping... That somehow his magical name would appear on my screen. How wrong is it to miss someone.. Who you know.. May not miss you at all?
I find myself drowning in these thoughts... Thoughts of him and I, along with God's blessings and guidance. But I wouldn't know how it would hVe been.. I will always be constantly imagining. Somehow this creature, whom I knew even right In the beginning, was the One I have always wanted to be with, someone whom I imagined them to be, only to be taken away. I felt like God has loaned him to me for such a short time, but what's His Is His... I'm still thankful that He loaned this creature to me, to learn from, have fun with, make love with, shared ideas with, to have fun with, and to see life, future, success, with.
I will still be forever thankful.
Moscato d' Asti
At the end of day, I still dream of coming hometo only one man.
As far as women becoming independent and doing their own, it's still inevitable that at the end of the day we still want to come home to only one man. Someone who fits with what we need, want, desire... Too many men in LA but not everyone fits the standards..
I had a recent talk with a guy friend about some deeppersonal stuff and he said, 'you're always going to be single if you can't compromise at least one thing.' so does that mean I should settle for what I don't want so I don't end up alone?
I always think 'Ronamay be single and focus on your career.' somehow I feel like this is unfair coz as much as I want to focus on what I need to do I still wanna be taken care of, feel a man's caress, experience his company, share his imagination. As much ad women say that they don't need men ( and I used to say this too) buti slowly findout that this isn't my nature.
After being single for a bit and dating here and there I find myself constantly coming back to the old me. Someone who wants to take care of someone more than myself. I love to cook, call, plan romantic stuff. I can't seem to do this 'being single and get loose' idea... I feel like I have the right to filter who and what I want in a man.. and If he is great I would prollye d up dating him and show him love..
All I'm saying is that although we love becoming independent and doing our own thing, make ou own money, take care of our bills and responsibilities, we still wanna be with a mAn who does the same thing as well. I'm prolly one of thefewto stand out against 'i'm not looking' policy because almost everyone does. It's great to have someone to love and cherish, to do romantic things with. To have someone (just one) who can be there.
But why is it so hard?
As far as women becoming independent and doing their own, it's still inevitable that at the end of the day we still want to come home to only one man. Someone who fits with what we need, want, desire... Too many men in LA but not everyone fits the standards..
I had a recent talk with a guy friend about some deeppersonal stuff and he said, 'you're always going to be single if you can't compromise at least one thing.' so does that mean I should settle for what I don't want so I don't end up alone?
I always think 'Ronamay be single and focus on your career.' somehow I feel like this is unfair coz as much as I want to focus on what I need to do I still wanna be taken care of, feel a man's caress, experience his company, share his imagination. As much ad women say that they don't need men ( and I used to say this too) buti slowly findout that this isn't my nature.
After being single for a bit and dating here and there I find myself constantly coming back to the old me. Someone who wants to take care of someone more than myself. I love to cook, call, plan romantic stuff. I can't seem to do this 'being single and get loose' idea... I feel like I have the right to filter who and what I want in a man.. and If he is great I would prollye d up dating him and show him love..
All I'm saying is that although we love becoming independent and doing our own thing, make ou own money, take care of our bills and responsibilities, we still wanna be with a mAn who does the same thing as well. I'm prolly one of thefewto stand out against 'i'm not looking' policy because almost everyone does. It's great to have someone to love and cherish, to do romantic things with. To have someone (just one) who can be there.
But why is it so hard?
The Millionaire Inside
I wish this show would air everyday. on every channel. The best one I have watched so far.
Keith Ferrazi, Larry Winget, Robert Kiyosaki
Get Inspired <- for the entire episode click here
Keith Ferrazi, Larry Winget, Robert Kiyosaki
Get Inspired <- for the entire episode click here
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