“The Small Things”: A Man’s Guide to A Woman’s Mind

 

OK. I have been meaning to write this article for so long but not quite the perfect timing then. Now, I will take my gloves off, and take a break from my inspirational blogs and write something of the creative nature. Something most men do not understand, but almost all women need. The small things. Yes, “the small things.”

So most men may ask..

“What the f*ck are the small things?”

Before I start discussing several answers to this question, i would like to disclaim that these are mostly my opinions based on my experiences. I have also gathered info from some of my girlfriends, single or not, some older women, married or divorced, and some younger kids…highschool and such. Now these may not be 100% true, but they are def 100% very common.

So men… you may hear a woman say… “it’s the small things that matter.”

As surprising as it may sound, this is actually common across the board when it comes to women and what they need, want, and expect from a relationship. You may think presents are nice (and trust me, they are), but it’s the little things that you do everyday that we women notice. and boy trust me, the little things Add Up. You may think we dont notice, but in reality, the little things are what we focus on.

so.. what are the “little things?” (includes, but not limited to:)

1) ATTENTION – HUGE. BIG. GINORMOUS. EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Women LOVE attention, whether they say they don’t. We want to be chased, pursued, sought after, noticed, etc. We want men to come speak to us first. We want to be noticed. we always try to look good for our men, and in return we want them to notice what we wear, the earings, the hair, the shoes, etc. Even to the smallest details.. our eyes, the way we smile, the way we fix our hair. The way we walk and talk.. the way we carry ourselves.

2) COMPLIMENTS – when we do something we are very excited about, we tend to share it. IN DETAILS. Extremely excruciating breakdown of the scenario. That’s just us. WOMEN LOVE and BATHE in compliments. Dont’ blame the woman, blame the evolution of women. Usually it’s something great that we have accomplished, or something simple like a pair of shoes.

3) COMMUNICATION – now this is prolly the most important. When we women are involved in a relationship we want to be constantly reminded of why we chose to be with you. Daily affirmations help us cherish you more, and motivates us to pursue the relationship. A simple text here and there usually suffices. A simple “good morning babe” text could just make our day.

Now, if you are out with your guy friends, we women expect you to check on us at least once while you’re out. This lets us know that we crossed your mind.

I personally like phone calls. hearing is just so much better than reading.

We like it if you make it known that we are your women especially to your firends, family, and neighbors. If you forget to introduce us, boy, that is huge. If you claim as us your friend when in reality we were your girlfriends.. just be ready. It will hunt you forever.

4) INTEGRITY – Now MEN, please please be a MAN of your word. Keep your promises. Do what you say you will do. When you plan a movie night with your girl, a movie night has to happen. When you said you will meet up and such time at such place, that is where and when you will meet. When you say you will cook dinner or buy food, that is what we expect you to do. When you say “ill call you in an hour.” that means you should call in an hour. When you say “i’ll write you when i get back” we expect an email then.

5) DO NOT FLAKE – it usually only takes two to three flakes and we seriously start to hate your guts.

6) DAILY SIMPLE TOUCHES – simple. A peck on the cheek, a gentle rub on the back, a small fix of the hair, a kiss on the hand, stolen kiss on the lips, kisses on the forehead, laying on our stomach, sitting next to us on a couch, opening our doors, i could go on and on and on.

7) DATES – Men, women love being taken out on a date, whether it is your first or your 5th. We like to be taken out to dinner, picnics, walks on the beach, a park, even to a mall. Dinners don’t have to be fancy (although dont be cheap either). We love it when the guy asks us out formally.

8) BE ROMANTIC – this is in relation to number #7. Be romantic. If you dont know how, my God watch movies. Ask around. research. read a book if you have no other choice. Being romantic doesnt have to be so extravagant. It just has to be simple, but truly heartfelt.

9) SOCIAL MEDIA – YES. WE WONDER ABOUT THE WOMEN ON YOUR FACEBOOK. Did you know that we get really curious as to who is posting what on your page? Women are GREAT private investigators. We will google this sh*t out of someone' who we see flooding your facebook wall.. Women are snoop. we will look through your phone. If not, we are dying to get to your phone. haha.

10) YOUR EX – Us women tend to be in competition with our fellow women than in pursuit of a man. The current girlfriends ALWAYS know they are better than the ex (i mean, she’s an ex for a reason, right?) but if your ex is acting like a disease that you can’t get rid of, then there will be problems. AND YES, WE ARE WILLING TO GET RID OF YOU JUST FOR THIS REASON ALONE. Yes we understand that they are part of your history and they made you who you are today blahhh blahh but they are your exes. You have slept with them, went out on dates with them, heck whatever else you guys did. Fellas if you love your girl you are willing to get rid of the things (or people) that make her uncomfortable.

 

Now these are just a few simple things. If you have noticed, not one of those say “send me an allowance” or “buy me an expensive necklace”: or “send me on a trip.” trust me these things are great, we appreciate it if you can afford all these big stuff. but if you can only provide the “BIG EXPENSIVE STUFF” and miss to do the little things listed above, it wouldnt matter. We will constantly bring up and talk about these little things – to you, our parent, our girlfriends, etc. These “little things” are big enough reasons as to why we should keep you as our men, or get rid of you to find another.

 

Now you may say “what the f*ck.. these things shouldnt be a big deal.” Well remember, women are creatures of emotion. Men are creatures of logic. what makes sense to you may not make any sense to us women, and it works both ways. Remember it’s not about what you do, its about how we feel about what you do.

And please. Quit thinking you are the “shit” because you can afford the big things and get any woman to chase you. To us, you are just another guy. You are THE “shit” when you know how to get a good woman, and even do a much greater job at keeping them. And how do you keep a good woman to yourself?

Do the simple things above.

 

If not, your good catch with just slip right through your hands. you won’t even notice that she’s gone.