The “Break-Up” Diet.

ok ok here it is damn… lol i know it has been long due but here, I will share (whole heartedly and honestly) the way I lost 24 pounds in a month and a half..Now disclaimer, this isn’t safe and healthy, and I didn’t do this intentionally. It was a natural course, but also with some healthy decision making afterwards.

1) I went through a break up (obviously, you should’ve figured that out) from a two loonngg dramatic Alaskan-Californian relationship. TWO long (or i may say it took TOO LONG)years haha. basically he dumped me in the summer. Actually a few months before we broke up he told me “babe, you should work out more.” YES. he told me I was fat..in a nice way. See if you're in a committed (thought so) relationship you get comftble. You don't really realize the shit you put in your mouth, or the amount of alcohol you drink. or exercise. or whatever. If you live with a man, there’s always lots of food. Meat, chips, etc etc. You basically stop caring.

So, when we broke up, I was DEVASTATED. all the shit he said came altogether and made sense. I don't know if he was messing around with some other girls (i heard stories) but who gives a sh*to. anyways, I had no appetite for the next two weeks. See other girls bathe on ice cream and chocolate. I was not eating. maybe one meal a day. couldn't get myself to eat anything. No appetite.

now, i drank lots of water. and alcohol. i partied a lot. lol

2) I Read Skinny Bitch. The Bible. Oh my god I cant even promote this book enough. I could sell this book. (i don't get paid doing that, but i promoted the crap out of it).  I read this book over and over and over and over……..again.

3) I BECAME VEGAN. Yes. Vegan. no meat, no dairy. just seafood (only to find out i was allergic) lol. soy nuggets, fake bacon, salad salad salad. rice, beans, corn, asparagus, carrots.. i basically got high on fruits and veggies. This seriously made a lot of difference!

4) I SAID GOODBYE TO COFFEE BEAN. yes. i gave up coffee. after reading the skinny bitch i was like “wtf, no coffee ever again. especially the fancy ones from coffee bean and starbucks”.

5) GAVE UP CUPCAKE, CHEESECAKE, OR ANY KIND OF CAKE. I used to eat cheesecake once a week. not anymore. only on bday parties. pushing it.

6) TWO DANCE CLASSES A WEEK, ONE HOUR EACH. now you can alternate this, depending on your style. I was in salsa class for an hour on Mondays, and Standard ballroom on Thursdays.. for six weeks. didn't miss a session.

7) YOGA at 645 AM. This alone helped. a lot.

8) I RAN AROUND THE NEIGHBOORHOOD. only about twice a week.

9) I ate fruits and drank tea instead of soda and candy.

10) The most important of all.. I DECIDED. I MADE THE DECISION TO LOSE WEIGHT. and i COMMITTED TO IT. FOR SIX WEEKS.

So, briefly, these were the ten things. Obviously the most important thing was COMMITMENT. It really is ALL IN THE MIND. You have to want it to get it. You cant just be running but still eating crap, or giving up meat and still drinking coffee bean. it has to work altogether. It’s proper diet and exercise. no magic pills, no “puking out” none of that crap.

if you must know these ten things got me from 142 to 116. i got really tiny and decided to eat more (I am now a vegetarian, not so vegan) and i like where I’m at now.

Why I’m So Abnoxious About Becoming Successful.

It’s not for me. It’s for something bigger than me.

1n 1991 I was diagnosed with H Fever, Typhoid Fever, and Pneumonia. I was really sick and was admitted to the ICU of a local hospital. Story short, I was so sick that the doctor’s couldn’t revive me.

I died. I flatlined for a few seconds. maybe minutes.

Miracles do happen. Obviously I am alive and well today. It all makes more sense now, that God has given me my life back because I know I have to serve a greater purpose. something BIG. Didn’t know it then, but I know now.

I came from a broken marriage. My dad was unfaithful, my mom left the country when I was two years old. Didn’t really grow up with a ‘mom’ and ‘dad’… more like grandparents, uncles, and aunties. My dad had tuberculosis and major heart problems and passed away in 2001. Mom has been slaving herself with work since she was 20. Altogether that’s 25 something years of labor.

Mom is slowly becoming unhealthy because of stress and tiredness. Who can blame her? she’s been on the workforce for so long. She still is the breadwinner of the family in the Philippines. She did re-marry to the most amazing stepdad in the world.

Now on my biological dad’s side, I could see traces of poverty. lack of money, broken dreams, lost hopes. All these on top of mom working way too much, the only hope left is… ME.

See I knew I was destined for greatness. I knew that I will be the one to be able to help everyone in my family. And one day, I DECIDED to take on that responsibility…one step at a time. I chose the path to become bigger than I am, having blind faith on what I believe in. Stepping into the commitment I made to myself and my family.

That I will be the one to get them out of poverty, and leave a legacy to my future family.

We weren’t rich. I used to walk to school.. We had christmas dinners with no dinners. Lived in a small house shared with 7 others. slept on the floor. never really had a bed. no hot running water, no stoves, washers, dryers. No locks, no bedroom doors (just curtains)… no cable, no computers, no nothing.

when I was given the opportunity to come to America, i decided to take it.. went through college, worked two jobs since I was 18, and finished college. Kept working even harder after that.. Found a boyfriend, moved to LA after college (only to be dumped a year later hahaha), and found a pretty decent job. I might say I love where I am at now, but I want something more. I cannot just think about “now” or “living in the moment” getting drunk and partying.. I am now building my future. So I can give back to my family. Especially to my mother.

And of course the road to success is tough, only the strong stay (there’s a reason why 90% of America is BROKE). I may not be wealthy right now but I know I will. Extra money isn’t all that. it’s what you can do with wealth that matters. The time I can spend with my family when I don’t have to go to work. When I can write a check to my mom to match her paycheck so she doesn’t have to work. To send money home to my relatives so they can feed themselves. Becoming who I wanna be is very rewarding. Of course I have to take this journey on my own.. I never realized how many of my close friends and family do not believe in me, very unsupportive (or fakingly supportive or think im crazy, they will never understand). Haters, they will always be around. Like they said, “never try to open a closed mind. it will exhaust you.” So whenever I have negative people trying to steal my dream away, I don’t let them. My dreams are mine, and other people will never going to make them happen for me. So why should I let them steal my dreams.

Now of course I want to obtain a lifestyle only a few people enjoy. Nice cars, nice homes, no debt, better food, better vacations…. See I believe in the vehicle im in.. For things to happen to us we must believe it to be possible before it is self evident. But like I said, i’m doing it for something bigger than the material things or the size of my bank account.

It’s for something big. bigger. to where I can leave something for my grandchildren. I wanna see my kids grow up (and not be at a job). To have a stable marriage (since most divorce are caused by lack of money), to be able to travel with my loved ones, to retire mom and dad, to donate more to my church, to start a charity, to leave a name that my whole family will remember… for generations to come.

So there you have it.

If you don’t have goals set for yourself, you sure are building others’.

I strive to be the person who can create a difference to other people’s lives. That’s the most rewarding thing, and the goal I’m aiming for.

“The Small Things”: A Man’s Guide to A Woman’s Mind

 

OK. I have been meaning to write this article for so long but not quite the perfect timing then. Now, I will take my gloves off, and take a break from my inspirational blogs and write something of the creative nature. Something most men do not understand, but almost all women need. The small things. Yes, “the small things.”

So most men may ask..

“What the f*ck are the small things?”

Before I start discussing several answers to this question, i would like to disclaim that these are mostly my opinions based on my experiences. I have also gathered info from some of my girlfriends, single or not, some older women, married or divorced, and some younger kids…highschool and such. Now these may not be 100% true, but they are def 100% very common.

So men… you may hear a woman say… “it’s the small things that matter.”

As surprising as it may sound, this is actually common across the board when it comes to women and what they need, want, and expect from a relationship. You may think presents are nice (and trust me, they are), but it’s the little things that you do everyday that we women notice. and boy trust me, the little things Add Up. You may think we dont notice, but in reality, the little things are what we focus on.

so.. what are the “little things?” (includes, but not limited to:)

1) ATTENTION – HUGE. BIG. GINORMOUS. EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Women LOVE attention, whether they say they don’t. We want to be chased, pursued, sought after, noticed, etc. We want men to come speak to us first. We want to be noticed. we always try to look good for our men, and in return we want them to notice what we wear, the earings, the hair, the shoes, etc. Even to the smallest details.. our eyes, the way we smile, the way we fix our hair. The way we walk and talk.. the way we carry ourselves.

2) COMPLIMENTS – when we do something we are very excited about, we tend to share it. IN DETAILS. Extremely excruciating breakdown of the scenario. That’s just us. WOMEN LOVE and BATHE in compliments. Dont’ blame the woman, blame the evolution of women. Usually it’s something great that we have accomplished, or something simple like a pair of shoes.

3) COMMUNICATION – now this is prolly the most important. When we women are involved in a relationship we want to be constantly reminded of why we chose to be with you. Daily affirmations help us cherish you more, and motivates us to pursue the relationship. A simple text here and there usually suffices. A simple “good morning babe” text could just make our day.

Now, if you are out with your guy friends, we women expect you to check on us at least once while you’re out. This lets us know that we crossed your mind.

I personally like phone calls. hearing is just so much better than reading.

We like it if you make it known that we are your women especially to your firends, family, and neighbors. If you forget to introduce us, boy, that is huge. If you claim as us your friend when in reality we were your girlfriends.. just be ready. It will hunt you forever.

4) INTEGRITY – Now MEN, please please be a MAN of your word. Keep your promises. Do what you say you will do. When you plan a movie night with your girl, a movie night has to happen. When you said you will meet up and such time at such place, that is where and when you will meet. When you say you will cook dinner or buy food, that is what we expect you to do. When you say “ill call you in an hour.” that means you should call in an hour. When you say “i’ll write you when i get back” we expect an email then.

5) DO NOT FLAKE – it usually only takes two to three flakes and we seriously start to hate your guts.

6) DAILY SIMPLE TOUCHES – simple. A peck on the cheek, a gentle rub on the back, a small fix of the hair, a kiss on the hand, stolen kiss on the lips, kisses on the forehead, laying on our stomach, sitting next to us on a couch, opening our doors, i could go on and on and on.

7) DATES – Men, women love being taken out on a date, whether it is your first or your 5th. We like to be taken out to dinner, picnics, walks on the beach, a park, even to a mall. Dinners don’t have to be fancy (although dont be cheap either). We love it when the guy asks us out formally.

8) BE ROMANTIC – this is in relation to number #7. Be romantic. If you dont know how, my God watch movies. Ask around. research. read a book if you have no other choice. Being romantic doesnt have to be so extravagant. It just has to be simple, but truly heartfelt.

9) SOCIAL MEDIA – YES. WE WONDER ABOUT THE WOMEN ON YOUR FACEBOOK. Did you know that we get really curious as to who is posting what on your page? Women are GREAT private investigators. We will google this sh*t out of someone' who we see flooding your facebook wall.. Women are snoop. we will look through your phone. If not, we are dying to get to your phone. haha.

10) YOUR EX – Us women tend to be in competition with our fellow women than in pursuit of a man. The current girlfriends ALWAYS know they are better than the ex (i mean, she’s an ex for a reason, right?) but if your ex is acting like a disease that you can’t get rid of, then there will be problems. AND YES, WE ARE WILLING TO GET RID OF YOU JUST FOR THIS REASON ALONE. Yes we understand that they are part of your history and they made you who you are today blahhh blahh but they are your exes. You have slept with them, went out on dates with them, heck whatever else you guys did. Fellas if you love your girl you are willing to get rid of the things (or people) that make her uncomfortable.

 

Now these are just a few simple things. If you have noticed, not one of those say “send me an allowance” or “buy me an expensive necklace”: or “send me on a trip.” trust me these things are great, we appreciate it if you can afford all these big stuff. but if you can only provide the “BIG EXPENSIVE STUFF” and miss to do the little things listed above, it wouldnt matter. We will constantly bring up and talk about these little things – to you, our parent, our girlfriends, etc. These “little things” are big enough reasons as to why we should keep you as our men, or get rid of you to find another.

 

Now you may say “what the f*ck.. these things shouldnt be a big deal.” Well remember, women are creatures of emotion. Men are creatures of logic. what makes sense to you may not make any sense to us women, and it works both ways. Remember it’s not about what you do, its about how we feel about what you do.

And please. Quit thinking you are the “shit” because you can afford the big things and get any woman to chase you. To us, you are just another guy. You are THE “shit” when you know how to get a good woman, and even do a much greater job at keeping them. And how do you keep a good woman to yourself?

Do the simple things above.

 

If not, your good catch with just slip right through your hands. you won’t even notice that she’s gone.

Mission Statement

July 18, 2015. 29 years old.

To become an individual successful in all aspects of life--a being, physically fit and enjoying a healthy lifestyle; family oriented, providing the basic necessities of life; a true servant helping change the lives of the many.. A discoverer of the wonders of the world, history, and modern acquisition; an individual in pursuit of continued service across the globe; a being with superb emotional growth, maintaining relationships and continuing to build more; with an abundance of resources and assets, to be able to provide to the needy; an individual with the strongest faith in God, family, and true service to others.

Paying it Forward.

I just got back from an awesome awesome trip to Palm Desert for a four day vacation/retreat. I may say it prolly just jumpstarted my "year" all over again, as it it the middle of the year already. Between now and december I have some major goals to get. Major.. Very major.

If there was one thing I learned from the weekend, that I will never forget.. is the concept of paying it forward. I was blessed to be introduced to the only opportunity that can create wealth while changing lives at the same time. Although i look at it as a vehicle to make money, the heart of what we do is "paying it forward." Instead of paying back the gift my sponsor has given to me, I instead, will pay it forward by sharing the blessing to others... so they can also pay it forward by helping others.. and so on.


If there was one purpose as to why Im doing this besides help myself is to help my friends, and even neighbors. I have my own goals to reach and this vehicle is defintely the only way to achieve them. I cannot wait to retire mom. thats one of my top 5 goals. I cannot have hea working forever. she has worked enouggh... sane with dad. with a few surgeries already i need to retre them. They do not need to work...

But along this journey i found out that not everybody is willing to pay it forward. helping others genuinely seems to be crazy unacceptable idea. not the norm. even being happy is not normal. society has imposed negativity to all of us that whenever there is a positive movement, it is greatly opposed.

no matter how much I send the message out there that I desire to help others change their lives, I am being judged as a selfish human being, only after people's money and time. when it doenst really matter to me because im doing it regardless of whether they do it or not. It is frustrating to help people that dont wanna be helped. i see them struggle with their lives and I know I have a solution. but because society has created such a negative impression on everything that's going on with the world, we are more inclined to blame the circumstances we're in instead of taking responsibility. and human beings have such huge egos and pride that whenever a help is extended to them, they say "no thanks, I'm good." well how about becoming something better? greater?


this weekend has changed me yet again. and I wished the people i cared about the most would jump on board with me. I do not wanna have to say "i told you so" down the line.. I deeply care about them and i sincerely think I can help...but then again, I cannot help those who do not want to be helped.